Today I walked into my landlord's bank. I am required to deposit my rent at her bank instead of dropping a check off to her. Keep in mind she lives in the unit above me and so that would be the preferred option. In all of my years of renting from her, I have paid her directly only during my first month of renting and Covid. Even during Covid, it was only a few months where she allowed us to pay her directly.
At any rate, I walk into her credit union and there are two tellers working. Four people in line. The parking lot was full and so I wasn't that surprised at the line. Another teller jumped in to manage the line and I was patiently waiting. I know Nora's account number and the requirements of the transaction. Waiting in line was not a deterrent.
An older gentleman emerged from the back of the bank. He passed by me to go to the bathroom. I didn't think much of him. I figured he had finished his business and wanted to use the bathroom before departing. However, when my turn to approach the available teller, this man reappears and hijacks my spot. He had another question for the teller.
I did not interrupt him. I was surprised that he felt he could do that. And perhaps, I relied on that he was elderly. Honestly, I don't know why I didn't say anything to him. In hindsight, I should have. He could have waited in line like the rest of us were. Behind me was an even older (elderly) guy who needed to sit down while he was waiting to check in. This entitled man felt comfortable making himself a priority.
The teller assisting him rolled her eyes when he approached but didn't say anything to prohibit it. I made a comment to the gal that helped me and she apologized. Still, no one said anything to this entitled man. I want to stop deferring to people who feel entitled. Start calling people out for their terrible behavior. I need to unlearn this polite behavior. If someone jumps the queue or is an asshole, I want to say something. I am tired of enabling this crappy behavior.
In addition, I am surprised at the amount of people who continue to talk while eating. It is such a disgusting habit. I do not want to watch you chew your food and talk at me. I feel like it is occurring more frequently. How have we, collectively, forgotten how to exist in society? No one wants to watch people consume their food while talking. It is deplorable.
Do better. That is all I am suggesting.
I would not behave that way. Why is it that some people feel it is okay to only focus on their needs and wants? It was really irritating. I feel like I have been taught to defer to elderly people or men. The tellers were mostly female. As irritated as they were with this guy, they didn't correct him either. We must do better.
No more dimming your light or making yourself smaller to accommodate a mediocre person.
