Saturday, September 12, 2020

Finding a balance

 Spreading kindness and positivity.  I was positive about making changes during the shut down.  I cooked daily, walked City Park and taught yoga.  I listened to multiple podcasts and was living a pretty clean eating type of life.  Slowly, as things reopened, I reverted back to what was normal to me.  Dining out or ordering take out.  I stopped making kitchari (the most complete protein and vegetarian inspired dish with curry spice, coriander, ginger and turmeric.  super good for your digestive system).  I still walk but have to make an effort to do it.  There was much more ease during the shutdown in that regard.

I suppose I acknowledge that as much as I enjoyed the forced changes, pivots, adaptations, I still feel comfort in what I had been doing.  Do I love cooking at home?  Not really.  It can be challenging to prep and cook for one person.  Having to do it made sense and now I have options.  I need to find a balance and prioritize it.  There is a balance between ordering take out and cooking at home. And, I was enjoying being creative.  I made cold summer pasta salad and slow cooked lentils from recipes that a friend posted on social media.  I loved seeing what Rick would present next. I have made lentils and pinto beans multiple times this summer.  On Tuesday, had I had onions, carrot and celery (mirepoix), I would have made a pot of something. It was the perfect day for it.  The temperatures dropped in Denver and I found myself sporting a hoodie and jeans.  This is atypical of early September.  I would have loved to have made a pot of lentils or green chile.

Speaking of green chile...I met the Goddess for dinner the other night and she wants to finally visit Santa Fe.  We are heading down in early October to explore the City Different.  I am excited since I have not visited since early June.  We will have dinner with Melody and potentially try the margarita trail or go hiking.  I was shown a spot on my last visit that was pretty great!  Or we can check out yoga and/or the Himalayan salt caves.  I am uncertain if Ojo Caliente is open again after their fires.  Or if they are open to people that are not staying at their hotel.  There is so much unknown still.  I considered going to hot springs in Colorado on my last staycation but it seems difficult to pin down a time where I would not be standing in line.  I frequent a korean spa in Denver and am so thankful they are open.  They have limited the soaking to two hours and number of people within the facility.  I know they are struggling to stay open.  Yesterday, I had arranged a body scrub and there were women walking around without a mask in spite of the notices saying that masks are required in every area.  It's frustrating to see that since I want the facility to stay open.  I do not want them to have to shut down since a few people will not follow a simple rule.  Is wearing a mask while receiving the body scrub comfortable?  No, it isn't.  It gets wet.  Yet, I do it to ensure that I have the opportunity to receive this service.

I want to find a balance in my life.  And, I choose to spread kindness and positivity as opposed to buying into fear.   There is an ample amount of that currently.  I choose kindness.  I hope to reach out to friends and family via letter or phone today.  I got out of that habit in my return march to what is normal as well.  I loved that I wrote letters during the shut down.  And, my little sister and her friend, Melanie, and I have been sending each other books.  I support this habit as well.

Celebrate today and spread some positivity!

Thursday, August 13, 2020

Throwback Thursday

 Throwback Thursday...feeling important, lol.  2013.  Paso Robles, California.  I managed a few trips--beer driven, wine inspired and destination race oriented.  This photo is from a market that carried this wine.  Sara Jo and I were exploring the area and stocking up on supplies.  I have sampled Harmony Cellars wines a few times in my life.  I do enjoy the Chardonnay and of course, love anything with my name on it!

Here is to a new Thursday and opportunity to travel.  The next few weeks, I will be staycationing around the beautiful state of Colorado.  I will check out Buena Vista with Maghan and then Keystone with Jenn the following week.  I am a lucky lady!

Til then, enjoy your day.  I need to return to teaching and planning out my day.  Cheers!

Friday, August 7, 2020

throwback Thursday (late, again)

 I apologize.  I meant to handle this yesterday but had multiple classes, lunch plans, dinner plans.  My day got away from me.  I seriously do not know how I have spent the last three days off.  Yoga, barre, meet ups, reading, hydrating, planning....this is my life.

I still have my memories of travel.  Actually, I made plans to have my passport renewed.  We shall see how long this venture takes.  I believe we will be able to travel again, worldwide.  My friend, Ven, always refers to me as sister.  It is such a term of endearment.  And, I love it.  He commented that he hoped I would return to Siem Reap, Cambodia.  My comment was that, yes, I would love to do that.  When I applied for my renewed passport, it inquired about upcoming travel.  I explained that 2021, I would be in Thailand in late March/early April.  I remember Maghan wanting three weeks to explore Thailand.  He seemed insistent about it.  I am trying to honor him.

This photo is from Italy 2012.  Agnese's grandmother, Marina.  A delightful woman.  Daily, she wakes up, drinks coffee, puts on lipstick and a dress and spends time at her house.  Mid afternoon, her daughter or son-in-law collects her for meals with them.  She sleeps at their home but wakes up early to return home.  

I spent five days with them in 2012 and they were amazing.  Fed me.  Sheltered me and put up with my lack of Italian.  Oh, and the espresso factor was incredible.  I have good friends.

I connected with Cody earlier and see a road trip to Utah in my future.  I have some travel plans in Colorado at the end of the month and hope to visit the Littles in Kansas soon.  It pains me to drive there.  I cannot help it.  However, my love of family outweighs most other things.  

Until then...enjoy your night, book and water.  Cheers!

Wednesday, August 5, 2020

mid week check in

How are you?  Have you remained committed to your goals?  Do you need motivation?  Or insight? A reminder?
Are you tracking your goals?  Journaling?  Taking photos?  What makes you accountable for your decisions?
I texted a friend from college to see how she is doing.  She wants to moderate her wine during the week and increase her movement.  I called her Friday and she was not quite ready to commit.  Today, she seemed more open to having the check in.  I am trying to be accountable with us to motivate myself to make videos.  I have promised videos, loosely, to two people, that I admire and respect.  I cannot let them down.  I need to have integrity in how I manage myself.  I committed to the Motivation Monday and slowly, I am easing into the video aspect.  New video that is....I have been sharing TRX videos and putting myself out there. I am thankful for that.
Today was a great day for me.  Initially, I thought it was jammed pack of things I felt I needed to do.  Teaching, lesson planning, figuring out my passport renewal, stamps...I stepped back and wrote down what was manageable and what I was capable of doing today.  I spread out what was priority and what I could do tomorrow or Friday.  It felt fantastic!  I threw in a mid-afternoon nap.  Glorious.  Yesterday, I felt great but knew that my sleep was depleted.  I tried to hydrate.  Truly, I did.  Yet, thirteen hours can be a beast!
I skipped my daily walk but figure I taught three sessions today and could use two days off of the walk.  I listened to podcasts. sent in my passport renewal and treated myself to sushi for happy hour.  A fantastic day off.  Happy hour was a 30 minute barre session.  I can enjoy some wine, relax and think about the next two days off.  I love my life.  I have always chosen the unconventional life.  I didn't do what I was supposed to do.  My parents hoped I would go to law school after I proclaimed at six years old that I wanted to be a lawyer.  That thought lasted til I went to college. Quickly, I leaned I wanted more from life.
I still don't know that I have grown up or know how to proceed.  What I do know is this....I want to be happy.  I want to feel passion for what I am accomplishing.  I want to feel alive!  I prefer helping others on their path.  Perhaps, I am fully ready to embrace being a healer/teacher.
Figure out what makes sense to you.  Hydrate.  Get outside and most importantly, breathe some life into your world!  Happy Hump Day!


Saturday, August 1, 2020

Staying consistent

I listened to a podcast this morning.  I have been pretty consistent with that particular routine.  I enjoy walking with Christine or walking while listening to a podcast.  There are a few that I enjoy--Entrepeneurs on Fire, Unemployable and Millionaire Mindcast.  They are inspiring and help me along my path to being my own boss.  
I listened to an episode today about Covid-19.  Although, really, it seems that every conversation makes its way back to this at some point.  With friends, scrolling through social media, the news (which I force myself to not watch to dive into the rabbit hole) and of course, podcasts.  The guest today pointed out that this could be a time of opportunity.   It is all based on how you react.  Not from a position of starting over; but perhaps, transitioning.  Or, pivoting.  I prefer the pivot!  
In addition, how you respond determines where you will end up.  I liked everything this man had to say except he got sort of preachy on binging netflix or drinking wine.  I do not appreciate the judgement.  Sometimes, I want to completely let go of my responsibilities.  I don't want to plan, organize, coordinate.  I just want to be.  And maybe that includes drinking wine.  And streaming some b.s. show.  Does this make me a bad person?  I don't think so.
The guest on the podcast, twice, referenced checking out to external factors and was quick to point out--I'm not being an asshole....um, yea, yes, you are!  Get off of your soap box!  Not everyone responds to stress in the same way.  I did enjoy the majority of what he had to say.
I appreciated the stress on the pivot, making choices and acting.  I think this is all resonating with me.  I honestly do not know what I am doing, financially.  I don't invest in real estate and I go back and forth on that importance.  I have always paved my own path.  Not conforming to the beliefs of others.  Sometimes, I doubt my choices.  Right now, I am concerned about my relationship with money and how it has limited my position.  I could be in a different place if I had different beliefs about money.  I never used my credit card, regularly, until three years ago.  I think about all of the plane tickets I could have paid for using points instead of cash. I was taught to believe that you live within your means.  Pay in cash.
It has served me well. I cannot lie.  However, I could be in a much more secure place.  Having my  money make more money for me. I am still learning how to do this.  
The pivot. 
Believing in myself, enough, to make it work.  Knowing that I provide a good service to my friends and intending on expanding my circle. I see how I can help others.  Most importantly, I see how staying consistent is essential.  Following up with people.  Sending reminders, cards of encouragement and providing workouts, tailored, for the client.  Making it all work out!
Cheers to Saturday.  Enjoy your weekend. Stay consistent in your hydration, haha!

Friday, July 31, 2020

random throwback Thursday (a day late)


This is the current throwback photo.  I loved creating this corkboard.  Mostly corks from my life with Brian and then wine with Sara Jo and a few with Sam.  2003-2006.  The last bottle of wine I drank with with Brian is in the center. He made a chicken dish. We discussed our future--having kids, travel and possibly buying a home. It was Monday and we were watching 24.  I'll always cherish that memory and how safe and supported I felt.  Especially the talk about having kids. I would have with him.  I truly loved him and our life.  
Losing him definitely altered the course of my life. It reinforced the importance of living life on my terms.  Becoming unconventional, traveling and not apologizing for it.  I do not regret my choices or meeting him.  He showed me to engage life and to live without regrets.
I still have this piece to remind me of my life with him.  Ironically, I had a dream last night and he and the Warrior Prince were both in it.  It was odd.  I was late for work and current co-workers were in my dream but the job I was late for was in Phoenix.  Brian drove me to work but then it was Maghan who drove me back home to retrieve my work clothes.  When I finally arrived at work, the bar was not set up and I was trying to pour beer at one bar and was completely overwhelmed by the volume of the tickets. 
I woke up exasperated! I really despise the work dream where I cannot keep up with tickets.  These dreams are awful.  It is, as if, the printer will not stop printing and there are 50 tickets I need to make and everyone is standing around staring at me.  These dreams terrify me.
And remembering the dream. And the men in my life. Perhaps that is why this memory pepped up today.  It honors my love for Brian and the life we had and also inspires how I think of Maghan and how I am currently living.  I finally am ready to establish some roots and adult.  Physicals, life insurance, paying taxes.  All adulting tasks.  In addition, I love travel, wine and sharing experiences.  Sort of like an affirmation that I am on the right path and happy.  I would love to arrange a trip with the Warrior Prince soon.  I miss travel too much.  Maybe I am overthinking it.  
I just completed a physical and after fasting for the previous twelve hours, I am determined to find some wine for lunch.  Or perhaps sushi for dinner.  I am definitely celebrating life!  I hope you do as well.  

Saturday, July 25, 2020

Staying accountable

I believe I am on the right path.  In the last few months, I have been reevaluating my life.  What I enjoy?  What is important and how to make things happen.  Of course, I miss traveling.  That is a large area of my life and I am unable to create currently. I want to create in my life and I suppose part of that is staying accountable. I can talk all day about how I would like to change my life but if I don't take steps to change it.  I will remain in the same place.
That is not a terrible position to be in.  I have shelter, access to clean water, a job, a fantastic support network and the ability to focus on health and wellness.  For the first time ever, I am questioning my relationship with money. I have always operated from a position of--live within your means.  My parents, specifically my dad, always preached about the importance of not being in debt. And, I have been fortunate to manage my finances from that belief system.  As a result, my credit is great, but I would still be limited on access to home loans or loans in general. I think back to those childhood mantras and how I would be in a different place if I had a different relationship with money. I have been listening to podcasts, following finance guys and considering how to make changes to improve my relationship. I already save 50 percent of what I make weekly to fund my love of travel.  I cannot travel anywhere so why am I not investing in myself?  Or retiring early? That would be pretty amazing.  I have never thought about when I would retire.  I suppose I believe I will work forever. But, why?  Why stay in this lane? 
That is what I am reflecting on today?  What is it that truly speaks to me?  How can I make it happen within the confines of my daily life?  What small changes can I make to form a healthy habit?  Accountability is one of the main components of change.  Committing to a routine and being accountable if I don't stay the course.  What is it they say--21 days to form a habit?  I have been listening to a meditation in the mornings which helps me set up my day in a place of gratitude. I think it is making a difference on my overall approach to my day.  I want to create on this blog and build.  Writing is such a powerful outlet to release emotions, desires and ultimately, dreams.  It enables a platform to be accountable to yourself.  And make changes.
I spoke to my sister and her bestie about relationships with money.  They are fans of a man who is a little too old school for me.  My dad loves this guy.  I think I need help/assistance with the growing money or setting up passive income.  Their guru is too focused on getting out of debt.  And it makes sense for most people. I need tools to redevelop my belief system with money.  That will be my next task.
I hope you enjoy your start to the weekend.  I am off to walk the park, listen to a podcast and greet the day.  Cheers!