Yesterday, a friend texted me to see if I would be interested in a girls' weekend getaway to celebrate her bachelorette party. Confused about it since originally I had suggested something like that only to be met with--I want to do it before the wedding. People are traveling to Denver and I think having it closer to the wedding would be preferable. I am excited for her nuptials. It's a lot of work though. I had forgotten how much planning/preparation go into being part of the wedding party. There is the engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, wedding itself, etc. I already know that I will be unable to be present at each function. If they have an engagment party I am probably out. Work, being in Phoenix and other things take priority unfortunately.
I sort of forgot about the wedding. I have been busy with work, running and dreaming of other places that I want to visit this year. For example, I want to go to Italy. I have a friend that lives in Venice and she has invited me countless times to make the trip. Last year, I was busy with stateside travel and family/friends. I put it off til it was too late to make it happen.
This year, I intend to go. It will require some planning and compromise from some of my co-workers but it will be great and I know that it will happen. However, wanting to go to Italy and planning a girls' weekend for a bachelorette party cuts into my travel time. Then, there is my dad's visit to Phoenix, Shari and my annual trip to celebrate Brian, my affair with Temecula/wine countries in Cali and half marathons that I want to run. I would love to do it all but understand that something must give. In this case, it's probably the girls' weekend. I suppose I am being unfair about this because their wedding date is a week before my birthday. It requires a weekend in Denver. I love Denver but I sort of unvisioned spending this birthday in Napa. That would be a stretch to pull that off after heading to Denver for 5+ days a week before it.
I think I can make some of it work. I did put it out there to the other attendees of the wedding to assess their thoughts regarding the bachelorette party. Anything is possible with planning. If they are interested in a girls' weekend before September, maybe, it will work. I asked them to be honest about their interest, commitment and finances. I don't know any of these girls and I want to make sure they are comfortable with a trip. We'll see.
I do know that I will go to Italy. Why wouldn't I? Food, WINE, olive oil, history, my friend lives....I would be a fool to not go.
I think I may have offended my friend when questioning the weekend trip. It was not my intention to do so, but, right now her focus is the wedding and mine is not. I understand her desire to talk about it, plan it, love it, etc, but I am just not there yet. I need to find a balance and show her that I am happy to be part of her celebration and excited for her. I am. I just have other things that excite me, too. I thrive on travel plans and could talk about that all day. In that respect, I do understand her wedding planning and how it can be consuming.
So, it remains undecided for the time being---the girls' weekend, that is. Italy is a definite as well as Shari's trip, my dad's trip and my desire to return to Temecula. Oh, and my sisters should visit, too. Each of them. I think Jasmin will be unable to since she just had a baby, but, Jade and Michaela could definitely make a trip to the Valley if they decided. Jade enjoyed Phoenix the first time out. She still speaks fondly of a mexican joint that I frequent.
Anyways, more on this later. I must start the day~