Saturday, July 25, 2009

Other People's Problems..

Sometimes, I get in a rut. You know...same o, same o, day in, day out. Run, work, eat, sleep, etc.
I turned on the radio the other day and listened to some Clear Choice Station. I am not a huge fan of the monopoly of radios, but sometimes, I listen to the dj's. There is this program called OPP--other people's problems. Sometimes, it is entertaining and other times, I get completely annoyed with the content. Thursday was one of those days.
This girl writes in to the station to ask if she is awful. Here is the scenario--
Dear such and such--
I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. I want to get married, but I don't think he will be asking me anytime soon. I want to give him a push in the right direction. I have a friend that decided to quit using birth control to force her boyfriend into marriage. They had two oops moments and are now married with a beautiful home. Since she did it, I think I can too. What do you think?
I was so angry, along with the dj's. They are men and so they had no respect for this betrayal and went on to say that most women do this. NO THEY DON'T. The ones that are desperate for a husband do, but any sane person would never equate this tactic onto happily ever after. It's not like you are buying a couch and give it back. Or a dog.
For real, who are these people that feel it is okay to play God with their lives and the lives of others? You cannot choose your parents and I feel bad for kids that have parents who view them as an after thought.
Having children should be a responsible decision. Yes, things happen that are not in your control, all of the time, but does it give you the right to play russian roulette with your relationship? Who is to say that this guy will do the right thing and stand by this child? I am still infuriated by this woman that wrote in to act so irresponsibly. There are many people that want kids, but have difficulty having them. Why are the morons the ones that have children so effortlessly?
I am still angry that this thought process continues. It gives a bad name to women who do really have an oops moment. I don't know anyone in their right mind who would make this decision so cavalierly. LIke choosing a new pair of shoes. It is ridiculous. I mean, kids are life changing and you cannot return them if you suck as a parent.
Enough. I am good.


scarlethue said...

Yeah, I hate this attitude too. A friend of mine recently discovered she was pregnant after accidentally forgetting a pill while she and her husband were on vacation, and a mutual friend, in a joking way, suggested it wasn't an accident as her husband has said before he didn't want kids for a while. I didn't think it was very funny.

That said, I think the same thing about people adopting animals-- you shouldn't get a dog or cat unless you fully understand the responsibility that comes with it and that it will last for the next 10-15 years or so. We have an epidemic here in this college town of college kids getting a dog, keeping it a year or two, then realizing they're going to move away to get a job or something and just dumping the animal at the shelter. It's heartbreaking.

Rachael @ The Little Birdie said...

I love that you wrote this. I think it rings true in every sector of society, regardless of your location. I get so frustrated when I see girls like that just "getting pregnant" for some silly reason, or on accident even! Look at all the teenagers who get pregnant in this country alone every year. The numbers are staggering...

And then there are people like my husband and I, who have been responsibly waiting until we were married, settled, and with enough income to support ourselves and a child. We've had no luck at all in 6 months... and I know there are other couples who have been trying for so much longer.

It's tragic that people treat it with such disregard, and as a "tool" to: 1. "Get" their man in chains. 2. Get money from the government. or 3. Give themselves something to do. And in turn, millions of children grow up in poverty, without proper familial attention, or even as orphans.

Thanks for putting this out there. I'm done preaching from my soapbox on your page, haha!

Take care! :)

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